Surviving Betrayal Trauma: Navigating Impact and Healing Journey

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Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Betrayal can feel like a punch to the gut. It knocks the wind out of you, leaves you reeling, and shakes your sense of trust to its core. Whether it comes from a partner, a friend, a family member, or someone in a position of authority, betrayal trauma cuts deep. It leaves scars that can take years to heal. Betrayal trauma occurs when someone we trust violates that trust in a significant way. It can take many forms – from infidelity and dishonesty to manipulation and abuse. When parental betrayal occurs, it entails lies, manipulation, and emotional neglect from those expected to offer love and protection. From instiutions the impact can be far reaching. This can look like singling out, scapegoating and absolute desctruction of your character shaping the views of others against you. The experience of betrayal trauma can leave us feeling lost, alone, and struggling to make sense of what happened. When you rely or depend on a person the damaged caused can be even greater.

The Effects of Betrayal Trauma

The effects of betrayal trauma can ripple through every aspect of your life. It can erode your self-esteem, undermine your sense of security, and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew. You may find yourself withdrawing from others, struggling to trust again, and wrestling with feelings of anger, sadness, and confusion. If you’ve experienced this in narcissistic households growing up, you may feel its impact profoundly. If during childhood, you had a deep betrayal of safety, trust, and confidence, it rocked your world profoundly. As a child, seeking help but facing silence or dismissal from the adults meant to protect you. It’s heart-wrenching. In response, you may have naturally withdraw, seeking solace within yourself as the only source of safety they can trust. This withdrawal can lead to feelings of disconnection, anxiety, sadness, and a constant state of alertness – all emotions that no child should have to bear. It’s a heavy burden to carry, and it’s not fair.

Broken Trust: Navigating Betrayal Trauma

You’re taught to believe that those closest to you will have your back, right? But what about when that trust is shattered, especially in your formative years? Thatcan cast a long shadow over all your future connections, not just limited to parent-child dynamics. Picture this: you’re in what you thought was a wonderful, amazing relationship, only to discover that your partner has been cheating and causing you endless heartache. It’s a gut-wrenching realization, made even harder when they refuse to take responsibility or engage in an honest conversation about it. It’s enough to make you question if you can ever trust anyone again, especially if they exhibit narcissistic traits.

Betrayal trauma isn’t just something we experience in childhood – it can follow us into adulthood too. And let me tell you, when it’s a recurring theme throughout your life, it can really mess with your ability to trust, both others and yourself. Thy hypervigilance can consume you, making it hard to let anyone in. But it doesn’t stop there. Another layer of betrayal trauma for some involves institutions or groups where you’re constantly made the scapegoat. Example: you’re in a situation where a narcissist holds all the power, and everyone else just falls in line, too afraid to rock the boat. You’re left isolated and unsupported, especially when you’re scapegoated, with nowhere safe to turn. Whether it’s because of financial ties, social obligations, or simply a sense of belonging, breaking free from these toxic dynamics can feel impossible. But trust me, it’s not. And if you’re stuck in this cycle, know that you’re not alone. There’s help out there, and you deserve to break free and find a sense of peace and security.

Road to Recovery

Recovering from betrayal trauma is a journey – one that requires time, patience, and self-compassion. It starts with acknowledging the pain and allowing ourselves to feel all the emotions that come with it. It’s okay to grieve, to be angry, to feel lost – these are all natural responses to betrayal. But healing is possible. It starts with reaching out for support . Whether it’s a trauma recovery specialist or a supportive friend who understands your experience, it’s essential to find healthy coping mechanisms. It’s also about learning to trust yourself – to listen to your instincts, set boundaries, and prioritize our your well-being. And it’s about recognizing that you are NOT defined by your past experiences. YOU are resilient, capable, and deserving of love and respect!

You know, when you’ve been betrayed, it’s natural to put up walls to protect yourself. And those dissociative feelings? They can make it really tough to even access the grief that’s buried underneath it all. But here’s the thing, self-care goes beyond just self-preservation. It’s about shifting your mindset, changing the dialogue in your head that’s all too often self-judging, self-critical, and downright self-harming. It’s about recognizing that all of those negative thoughts were planted there by toxic people, and they don’t define who you really are. Because deep down, you’re capable of so much more. You have the power to grow, to learn, to heal, and to change. And most importantly, you deserve kindness – from yourself, to yourself. Sure, it might feel like a bumpy road at times, and it might even seem impossible, am I right? But trust me, it’s all part of the journey towards healing from things like betrayal trauma and toxic relationships.

Going a bit deeper wtih self-care

Let’s dive a little deeper into self-care, because it’s so much more than just finding someone to talk to. It’s about building self-trust, feeling confident in your ability to take care of yourself, and finding healthy ways to navigate your emotions. And you know what? It’s absolutely crucial when it comes to healing from betrayal trauma. So whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, or simply spending some quality time with yourself, make self-care a priority. Because you deserve to feel supported, valued, and loved – especially during the tough times. Because let’s be real – dealing with betrayal trauma brings up a lot of heavy stuff. There’s shame, there’s defensiveness, and it can feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. But by practicing self-care, you’re not only validating your own experiences and emotions, but you’re also lifting yourself up, boosting your self-esteem, and reclaiming your sense of worth.

So if you’re struggling, if you’re feeling lost or overwhelmed, know that you’re not alone. Reach out, leave a comment, ask for help – because together, we can support each other on this journey towards healing and growth. Let’s keep this conversation going, okay? You’ve got this, and I’m here to help every step of the way.

Finding Hope

If you’re struggling with betrayal trauma, know that you are not alone. There are resources and support available to help you navigate the journey of healing .

Group Coaching: this amazing group has been consistantly attended for over 6 years. Many people have found comminity and coahcing help here. Private Coaching: Work one on one with Lise to help you focus your efforts toward healing and growth. Peer Support: Free peer support on a private Facebook group. Videos to help you heal and understand

Remember, healing takes time – but with patience, self-compassion, and support, you can emerge from the darkness of betrayal trauma and step into a brighter, more empowered future. You deserve to find peace, healing, and happiness – and you are worthy of love and respect.



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